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Business As Usual

GREAT NEWS - BUSINESS AS USUAL.

We are all currently facing very difficult times, and trying to overcome challenges we never imagined having to deal with. We face weeks ahead at home with little contact with others. Most are battling with fears and anxieties about their own health and the health of loved ones, whilst the majority of us are concerned about how our NHS will cope. Many of us are desperately worried about finances, job security, and our children's education. Whilst all of us will have our own unique family struggles and concerns.

These are unchartered waters and some of us will cope well, whilst others will feel totally at sea. I am around and available to coach and support you, should you feel it could help, and am working on a "business as usual" basis providing 'virtual coaching sessions' via Zoom, FaceTime or phone.

Amongst other subjects, I am providing life coaching, stress coaching, building resilience, support with anxiety and fear, time management and working productively from home coaching, and support around family challenges. Together we can ensure you come out of these weeks feeling calmer, mentally stronger, much more resilient, efficient and ready to face life with complete direction.

A candle is not there to illuminate itself

The problem with social media is that it has encouraged us to become very self absorbed and focussed on me, me, me. Look at me….. look at where I am, look at what I am doing…. look at what I'‘m eating….

We are now far more likely to feel good as a result of how many likes our posts receive than perhaps any face to face contact and interaction we have had that day. But it is short lived and fairly shallow. Old fashioned, proper human contact is far more powerful and long lasting - receiving genuine thanks and appreciation for something we have done for a person, positive feedback for a job well done, or just a genuine compliment about who we are, what we are wearing, etc., makes our day (and possibly longer). It lifts our spirits, makes us smiles and definitely encourages to do more of XYZ, putting us in a great frame of mind and boosting our self worth. What a gift.

So, my question is how often do you give genuine compliments, heartfelt thanks, positive feedback - unprompted, spontaneous and to anyone who deserves it, including strangers? Could you do more? YES! It could be for great service in a shop where they’ve gone the extra mile to help you, real care from a doctor or nurse, excellent guidance from your child’s teacher, great public service in an airport, a hotel, a restaurant or even in the petrol station. There are three petrol stations that I could easily use around me - but I go to one in particular because the guy working there is always so cheerful, helpful, and positive, it makes such a difference but does he know it? It’s not always easy to say, “You are a ray of sunshine and always brighten up my day” but how powerful would that be for him to hear - and so well deserved!

So here’s the challenge. A candle is not there to illuminate itself, so perhaps we could spend less time promoting what we’ve been doing and what we have, and instead maybe we could make ourselves, every day, at least once (if not more), say something positive to a friend or acquaintance, unprompted, to make their day happier? Furthermore, on top of that, at least once a day say a proper thank you backed up with a reason, or an unprompted compliment to a stranger and make their day. It would be a gift to them and make you feel good, too - a win, win. Try it, every day this week to someone you know, and to a stranger. Make their day so much better. Just imagine if everyone did this on a daily basis, what a better world it would be for all of us. Enjoy the challenge.