All tagged coping strategies

The Power of Looking Within

The Power of Looking Within

Dawn Fiske
Dealing With Upset

One of the most powerful, yet often difficult, activities that we can do for our personal growth, is to fully explore why, on some occasions, certain things said or done to us by others can have an enormously upsetting or hurtful impact on us.

Have you ever wondered why some negative situations, whilst unpleasant, just pass us by? We manage to move on quickly, brush ourselves off, and forget about it with minimal effort. Yet, other unpleasant situations can really drag us down, we spend hours talking about it or reliving it in our mind, and generally struggle to let it go. Why is that? What is the difference that makes the difference? Why do some situations upset us so deeply, whilst others don't?

I believe these are the very experiences that, although painful, provide us with the biggest opportunity to dig deep, soul search, and learn about ourselves and our behavior. I would go so far as to say, that these situations or experiences may well in fact be badly wrapped gifts.

By gift, I am referring to the opportunity to learn something about our self, to understand ourselves better, to make a change, to improve something, or address something. Once we have discovered what that is, the negative situation immediately shrinks in size and strength, we see it through a different lens, and as a result, our negative emotions reduce.

Take the time to cast your mind back now to the last time someone truly upset, angered, or hurt you. Why did the experience have such a powerful impact on you? What could you learn from it about yourself, and what learning or gift could you find in that situation? Did they say anything that may have had some truth in it or some accuracy? Were they right in any way at all, even though it hurt and if so, what can you change take as the gift?

To hear much more on this topic, listen to Episode 61 of my free "Life Coaching On The Move" podcast series, which you can find on YouTube at https://youtu.be/Nytbw5a3_8w - I hope it helps.

Business As Usual

Business As Usual

Dawn Fiske
Zoom Life Coaching

GREAT NEWS - BUSINESS AS USUAL.

We are all currently facing very difficult times, and trying to overcome challenges we never imagined having to deal with. We face weeks ahead at home with little contact with others. Most are battling with fears and anxieties about their own health and the health of loved ones, whilst the majority of us are concerned about how our NHS will cope. Many of us are desperately worried about finances, job security, and our children's education. Whilst all of us will have our own unique family struggles and concerns.

These are unchartered waters and some of us will cope well, whilst others will feel totally at sea. I am around and available to coach and support you, should you feel it could help, and am working on a "business as usual" basis providing 'virtual coaching sessions' via Zoom, FaceTime or phone.

Amongst other subjects, I am providing life coaching, stress coaching, building resilience, support with anxiety and fear, time management and working productively from home coaching, and support around family challenges. Together we can ensure you come out of these weeks feeling calmer, mentally stronger, much more resilient, efficient and ready to face life with complete direction.

Soar Into A Better Future

Soar Into A Better Future

Dawn Fiske
Seeing the positive, Opportunities, Finding Opportunities, Coping with Negativity, Handling the negative

If you could soar over this difficult time to the time when it is all behind you and just a distant memory, what will you have found out about yourself? What strengths will you have found that you didn't know you had? What will you have achieved in these months that you've always wanted to achieve but didn't have the time? So far, I have cleared the garage of lots of rubbish and sold some bikes, and a rowing machine to people that really want some help with the exercise side of these months. I've power-hosed the patio, too. Today I am washing and hoovering out the car, and next week I am focussing on clearing outgrown/unused clothes from all of the wardrobes and drawers. How about you? If you would like further tips, techniques, and helpful strategies to use throughout this difficult time, or any other time in your everyday life then feel free to listen to my free "Life Coaching On The Move" podcast found on my website. Just click on the podcast button to listen and enjoy.#stayingpositive#copingstrategies#lifecoaching

Don't stay stuck in the mud

Don't stay stuck in the mud

Dawn Fiske
Life Coaching, Resilience, Bouncing Back, Thriving, Coping Under Pressure, Coping Strategies, Adversity, Coping With Adversity, Coping With Setbacks, Coming Back Stronger, Inner Strength, Inner Resilience, Building Resilience

What is inner resilience? Why is it that some people cope with difficult times and life struggles better than others. What's the difference, and how do they do it?

The answer is that 'resilient people' don't stay stuck in the swamp of the problem. They don't focus on the "why is this happening?" or "why me?"

Instead, resilient people focus on the "how am I going to get out of this?" or, "what can I do to solve this/improve this?"

They go into solution mode and problem solving, they look ahead to when and how things can improve. They take action, make decisions, have goals and look forward rather than dwell on the present problem exclusively.

Sometimes we all need to wallow a little, but there comes a time when we need to get out of the mud and start to move forward. The question is, how soon do we want to do that?