Do you ever find yourself watching other people and wishing you could be like them?
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All in Inner Strength
Did you know that our thoughts influence our feelings, our mood, our behaviours, and ultimately, our well-being, yet we rarely take the time to pause and examine them? By simply asking ourselves, “What am I thinking?” we unlock the potential to challenge unhelpful thought patterns, improve our mood, foster emotional resilience, and create better outcomes in our personal and professional lives.
In a world that celebrates persistence and grit, the idea of quitting often carries a negative stigma. We’re conditioned to believe that if we give up on something, it’s a sign of failure, a lack of resilience or commitment, or a weakness in character. However, quitting is sometimes a smart and necessary choice—one that can empower us to open doors, freeing us from unhealthy situations, and leading us toward a more fulfilling life. Let’s explore why quitting isn’t always a bad thing and, in many cases, can be the healthiest decision we can make.
I have today been listening to an interview with an incredible woman. Jasmin Paris, a record breaking ultra marathon champion was chatting to Simon Mundie on the “Don’t Tell Me The Score” podcast about endurance, time management, and achieving your goals. Why? Well, when you hear her story, you will understand why she is perfectly qualified to discuss these topics.
Earlier this year, Jasmin took part in the 268 mile Spine race across the Penine Way National Trail, widely regarded as one of the toughest endurance races in the world. Jasmin, became not only the first woman to win the race outright, she also smashed the men’s course record by a staggering 12 hours.
As if this wasn’t incredible enough, Jasmin was also expressing milk for her 14 month old daughter along the route. In addition, whilst training for The Spine, she was not only juggling the demands of being a Mum to a young baby during the day, she was up in the night feeding her baby, then getting up at 5am to complete a long training run, and all this on top of working as a vet.
I was desperate to find out how she managed to fit it all in, particularly from a time management point of view. Jasmin stressed that we first need to love what we do and when we find that it gives us purpose and drive. She described that her goals keep her focussed and they help her to decide where to focus her attention and what to spend her time on. She doesn’t watch TV! She occasionally watches the odd film and only looks at social media approximately 3 times a week. Jasmin explained she is able to juggle everything by spending time on 'worthwhile tasks' only - tasks that underpin and support her goals. She uses her time well, not losing hours on YouTube, Social Media, or TV. Jasmin's trick to time management is to carry out valuable tasks only, each with a real purpose and each connected to helping her achieve her goals, or for her family, or her career. A tip I for one am going to draw on a lot more to see the results for myself. How could this help your time management, too?
What is inner resilience? Why is it that some people cope with difficult times and life struggles better than others. What's the difference, and how do they do it?
The answer is that 'resilient people' don't stay stuck in the swamp of the problem. They don't focus on the "why is this happening?" or "why me?"
Instead, resilient people focus on the "how am I going to get out of this?" or, "what can I do to solve this/improve this?"
They go into solution mode and problem solving, they look ahead to when and how things can improve. They take action, make decisions, have goals and look forward rather than dwell on the present problem exclusively.
Sometimes we all need to wallow a little, but there comes a time when we need to get out of the mud and start to move forward. The question is, how soon do we want to do that?
