Do you ever find yourself watching other people and wishing you could be like them?
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Here are 10 life lessons I have learned from my clients….
A growth mindset is one of the best things you can focus on in your personal development. It will make you happier, more successful, more open to change, and much more likely to embrace hard work.
Those with a Growth Mindset have been found to be much more flexible, and significantly more adaptive to changed situations, and in these very changing times, the person who is the most adaptive will be the most successful! So, why wouldn’t any of us want to work on this and reap the benefits of our hard work?
In addition, a Growth Mindset will also make you aware of opportunities or possibilities you would miss if have a very Fixed Mindset. In fact, the greater the Growth Mindset, the more these opportunities become suddenly interesting because you know you can do something with them and apply them to achieving your goals - your subconscious mind will elegantly present you all kinds of opportunities you would otherwise have missed out on and you are much more likely to take action and get the results you want.
Problem-solving is also improved by fostering a Growth Mindset. Whether you believe you can find a solution, or whether you believe you can’t, you are right! So, if you maintain a Fixed Mindset and tell yourself “there is nothing I can do to solve this challenge,” then your failure is guaranteed. In contrast, a person with a developed Growth Mindset is much more likely to believe “I can find a solution to this….. I just need to explore all possible avenues.” and as a result is far more likely to accomplish exactly that.
Furthermore, with a Growth Mindset, the chance of you giving up on your efforts to pursue your goals is much less than if you have a Fixed Mindset. If you give up, you’ll never be successful. With a Growth Mindset, you will be much more successful because you continue to pursue your goals with focus, hard work, and consistency until you are successful. Quitters don’t win, and winners don’t quit.
But one important benefit, as I see it, is the fact that you will be much more open to yourself and other people if you have a Growth Mindset. You are willing to admit failures and to celebrate your successes to yourself and others because you know that this is the best way for you to learn and to improve yourself. You will learn faster from your experiences when having a Growth Mindset.
When you improve your Mindset, and constantly develop and seek improvement, you are realistic about all the obstacles you will meet on your path towards your goal. You won’t become frustrated, depressed, and lethargic at the very first obstacle. Instead, you will be optimistic about achieving your goal and struggle on until you do, making you unstoppable, successful, and much, much happier.
I passionately believe working on ourselves, constantly learning, and expanding our mind by fostering a Growth Mindset will make us more responsible for, and in control of our life. It will put an end to victim mentality and stop us from complaining and moaning about whatever happens in our life. And who wants to be a victim? I know I don’t!
Would you let a thief in your house? Would you go away on holiday and leave all your doors unlocked? Would you leave your car unlocked outside your house after hearing your neighbour's car had recently been stolen? NO!
Yet many of us allow the biggest thief of our success, happiness, confidence and achievements come into our head – the thief we know as SELF DOUBT!
When self-doubt creeps in and we give it attention and power over us, we lose momentum, we stop taking action, we hold ourselves back, we angst, worry and fret. Then what happens….?
- OUR SELF DOUBT WINS
Instead of planning, trying, making decisions, taking risks, getting excited and taking action, we stay put, we stay ‘safe’, we STAY STUCK!
Self doubt is the biggest obstacle we face. Not financial, not time, not circumstances, ability or opportunity. WE stop ourselves. We must get out of our own way!
So how do we stop our self-doubt?
When that voice kicks in feeding us all the self-doubting worries, we need to recognise it and consciously turn our thoughts into solution mode – “What can I do to make sure it does work?” “What steps can I take to make sure I do succeed?” “How can I make myself even more foolproof with this plan?”
Instead of spending energy and effort on worrying about the ‘what if’s’, we focus that same energy and effort into how we can minimise and/or overcome the possible obstacles, and therefore succeed, grow in confidence and self belief, feel happier, motivated, and achieve our goals. All much more positive than staying stuck in our self-induced mud of self doubt!
Solution thinking takes back control. Worrying diminishes our control.
Concluding tip:
Refuse to be a victim of your own thoughts. Instead, get out of your own way and take back control.
